They say we as a people are doomed to be able to love, to be able to let our hearts be that Atlas holding up the celestial sphere, with no choice but to yield the burden. They say Atlas was cursed. I am doing just fine with my innate tendency to fall for broken people with a purpose of fixing them, then coming out of the web broken myself. A terminally ill person is like art. They may not look pretty to you and their bundle of mess will always be one more to add to the ninety-nine problems in your life. But like art, they will always make you feel something.
Of course, medical professionals are doing a truly difficult job and they deserve our respect. At the same time, the mental state of the patient should always be considered. By this, I mean that they should balance our need for closure and quality of life with other medical considerations.
Many doctors are quite good at this… but, not all. When someone they know gets sick, most people have one of two instincts. Either they run away or they drop everything and try to help.
Jon reminds people who fall into this second category to take care of themselves first.
Dating a dying person
If you are helping a loved one, Jon says that Death Cafes can help you to deal with your own feelings in a non-judgmental environment. Ironically, when you face your own fears about death, you will be in a better position to help.[RARE] Rabies in a human
Have you ever had to care for someone who was dying? What did the experience teach you? What advice do you have for the other women in our community about how to talk to someone who is dying?
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Disclaimer Nothing on this website should be considered medical advice. Always consult a doctor before making any changes to your diet, medical plan, or exercise routine. But when your lips meet theirs for the first time and you find yourself feeling the peaking euphoria that accompanies first kisses, they will wince. You will find them grunting in pain when your hands touch parts of their skin which are covered with scars and stitches from critical operations, and eventually you will realize that you are not making love to just another person.
You will not be able to mend them. Medical science will always be third wheeling.
On Being In Love With A Terminally Ill Person
But you will be able to make holding on worth it for them. Your life will feel like a House M. You will be brave enough to build on your love story nevertheless because you have been selfless enough to love a terminally ill person.
And if a terminally ill person falls in love with you, it will not be just another love—it will be an August Love.
Can we really pick our moment to die?
When you open your morning eyes as you lie beside them you will find them writing. The night was sleepless. But in all of their brokenness, they will still be the most beautiful thing to happen to you and your love story will still be art to you. You are going to make it art, you are going to immortalize it. Remember, it is going to scar you in a way. Because when you grieve and move on to a new person, you are going to hear the wincing echo in your ears when you have your new first kiss.
But let me tell you, it is not going to matter. Because now in your life, you are not going to settle for anything that is short of the art you have already had.
To you now, sadness is goddamn art, and misery is better than boring.