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When we wrote dating bible The Rules in , it became a bestseller. Our premise was that women who played hard to get got their man, while the women who showed too much interest didn't.
The book was translated into 27 languages and helped a generation of women find their Mr Right. But a lot has changed since then.
Online dating 24 hour rule
Now texting, Facebook, Twitter, Skype and online matchmaking sites have revolutionised the dating landscape. It's more complicated than ever to manage your romantic life.
So what are 'The Rules' in the digital age? Our new book tackles exactly that question - and here, in an exclusive extract, we show you how to handle texts, emails, Facebook and online dating Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider have updated their bestselling guide to love in order to make it relevant to the Facebook generation.
Never text, email or Facebook a man first. In our first book, we told women not to speak to men first - not even an innocent, 'Hi' or 'What time is it? The same rule applies to texting and all other social media. The premise of The Rules is that, as unfeminist as it sounds, a woman should do absolutely nothing to start a relationship. The worst that can happen is that he will say yes and date you, leading you to believe that you are in a relationship before eventually ditching you for the woman he really likes - probably one who has followed the Rules.
That's if you are in your teens or early to mids and grew up with texting and Facebook. The older you are, the longer you should wait.
These text-back times do not apply to weekends, specifically from Friday at 6pm to Sunday at 6pm. For Rules Girls, weekends are the 'blackout period'. You're busy and therefore unreachable. There are a couple of other critical factors with texting: So if he writes, 'Do you want to go out sometime?DATING my BESTFRIEND for 24 HOURS
Do not write, 'Sure, that would be great. Work is manic, but I am free this Thursday night and all weekend and I know a really cool restaurant.
Love in a digital age: Thanks to social networking sites such as Twitter and Facebook, dating rules have become a lot more complicated than they once were. Don't answer after midnight. Part of The Rules is about teaching men to respect you - and that means setting boundaries. You should not answer calls or messages after midnight, because you are busy or need your beauty sleep or, quite frankly, it's none of his business why.
If a man is calling you after midnight, he's looking for sex, not a date, and may well have sent the same text to ten other girls at the same time. A Rules Girl likes herself too much to be so undervalued.
Keep emails brief and never email first. Keep it light and breezy.
The 24-Hour Texting Rule!
Unlike texting, which is by necessity brief, emailing can be dangerous. Some women are notorious for composing long-winded dissertations with stanzas of their favourite poetry, passages from novels, relationship quizzes or worse. None of that is Rules behaviour. Text, phone and Skype conversations should be a maximum of 15 minutes - and you should always be the one to end it.
So that you leave him wanting more. The premise of Facebook is to let people into your world - and that means giving them access to what you are up to at all times. But The Rules are all about being elusive. The 7 Day Rule, is usually after the male and female embark on their first date.
Even if the male enjoyed the outting with the female, he proceeds to wait 7 days flashbacks of The Ring, anyone? Girls are onto these rules. The problem with these stupid rules, is if you DO actually make a great connection with this girl you lose momentum when you fail to follow up with her.
The 3 Day Rule is bearable, annoying, but bearable. If you truly have a great time with a girl, following up the next day or 2nd day after is fine.
Write a sentence if you are going to text a girl, not one word hieroglyphics. And yes, it IS ok to contact her before the 3 Days are up, because if she likes you, she will want to hear from you.
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I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine that ended up being the inspiration for this post. Picture this, you met a girl at a bar, sporting event, house party, dinner, whatever it was, and you hit it off. There was instant chemistry, sparks were flying, and before she left, she gave you her number. Of course the obvious takeaway from the series of events is she really wants you to contact her.