Thanks for that one, Dan! But the guys I get involved with, date, fuck, etc. So I'm headed down a path to ending up a lonely, old gay man. I personally know gay couples with ten-, fifteen-, twenty-, and twenty-five-year age differences. So a longterm relationship between a year-old Daddy and a gay boy in his twenties isn't impossible.
But the guys I get involved with, date, fuck, etc. So I'm headed down a path to ending up a lonely, old gay man. I personally know gay couples with ten-, fifteen-, twenty-, and twenty-five-year age differences. So a longterm relationship between a year-old Daddy and a gay boy in his twenties isn't impossible. But by telling yourself it's impossible, DADDY, you've made it impossible—not for everyone, just for you.
The actor and author Stephen Fry is married to a man thirty years his junior; author Armistead Maupin is married to a man 27 years his junior. But first you have to let yourself believe it's possible.
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I am so happy Richard that you found happiness in your relationships. Thank you for leaving your comments! One needs to be true to themselves. Not their parents, family or peers. Living up to the expectations of others is crippling.
Your story brought tears to my eyes, especially about your first relationship for 15 years. The thought of outliving him scares the crap out of me. I love this man so much. I love him with all my heart. They treat him as an equal to them, and he knows that he can never be a parental figure to them due to his age.
I worry about him as I get older. How will I be able to fulfill my side of the relationship? How can I extend my health and fitness level to try and keep up with him as I age. I have been in a relationship with a fellow 32 years younger for 3 months. We have been together every night and now, during summer, most of our days. He is a wonderful sweet fellow. I am very worried however, about many issues.
Would you be able and willing to use Facebook messenger or gmail chat? Your perspective seems unique. You are so excepting and your children are too. Somehow, I sense that you could help me.Dating Older Guys & Manscaping
What a beautiful life you have Matt. My man is 24 years younger then me. Love him with all my hart.. You have the gift of forever as it strings across the several right nows. Thank you Matt and Richard for sharing, wishing you all the best. Being the young one in an intergenerational relationship that has lasted 8 years 23 years age gap the biggest con for me is being afraid of society. I recently got involved with a man who is That is a 31 year difference.
We make each other so happy yet we fear what society and family will think. It is reassuring to know there are more out there like us. I have a right to be with whom I am happy with right?
I love with all my heart my partner of only three months who is 30 years younger than me. He is 26 and I am I hope there will be many many more. Please tell me what we should not do wrong? I am 32 years older than my partner. Yes, it is more important to be with the one who makes us happy. And yes, we are burdened by the several side effects created by society. I wish we could really share with each other our experiences.
I need someone to talk to about all of this. Will soon celebrate my or our 8th anniversary with a partner 22 years younger than me. We have an amazing trusting fulfilling relationship. Sure we heard all the negative and tasteless remarks, but chose to ignore them.
I was coming out of a 40 plus year marriage to my wife when I met a 30 year old guy on Grindr. There is a 31 year age difference between us. We have been dating for about one year. As the older person in the relationship it brings me excitement, passion and the ability to mentor and guide someone that I have come to love. At first I was very bothered by the age difference. However, my partner repeatedly has told me and I know totally agree that age is a state of mind.
I keep myself in great shape and am able to keep up with my young friend in every way.. We complement each other in so many ways. He is learning about finance and politics and I am learning about his generation, his music and am able to view our joint lives through his eyes.
Do I worry about what happens when I am 75 and he is 44? The first being my wife of 21 years of marriage. We are currently going through a divorce. He is everything I am not, sexy, outgoing, vibrant. I see in him a soul I want to fully embrace. Before I turned my phone off I texted a friend of ours he was with.
Friend in this case being the guy we both want a threesome with, and maybe invite into our relationship. Both of us believe in polyamorous relationships. It is a confusing state of affairs, and most people tell me to dump him. He also gets resistance from his friends and family. I personally like the gawking, stares, and stuff we get in public. The ltr I had was with a guy 30years older than me, we were in love but sadly on the 3rd year he died suddenly. I would love too have a long term relationship a guy 30 years younger than me, but all I have experienced is gold diggers.
I know I can choose who I date. I chose to date a man 13 years younger than me. Labels should not matter if you are secure and confident in what you have with someone.
And you just have to be really understanding and patient. I guess if you love someone then that should already be a given. If they start feeling that way, then they will slowly drift away from you.
Hello Will Glad I found your web site. It was refreshing to realise that I am not alone in my view that we should be able to choose. Mine is a somewhat odd story in that I married young and only learned later that I was bisexual when I fell for a lovely young man.
Regretfully he did not reciprocate my love although we remained good friends for over a year. Thgis non-relationship caused me to have a nervous breakdown. My wife was none too pleased either. Several gay flings followed. Six years ago my wife passed away after we had brought 4 daughters into the world I now also have 6 grandchildren — one of whom is lesbian. I have been searching for a young gay man for a long time.
In Septemeber I will be 76 so am beginning to realise it might never happen. I now live a lonely life and put all my efforts into an expanding postal business which I started 42 years ago. Oh how I long for a young man — just someone to cuddle and for companionship. I guess I have served my purpose in life but still have many regrets.
Sincere good wishes John. I have been in two long term relationships with a 20 and 25 year younger then me guys. It can happen to the younger guy. To me it really is not an issue. Successful inter-generational relationships are more common than many people realize. About eight or nine years ago a friend of mine introduced me to the Silverdaddies site. I was on it for two or three years and for the most part I met very nice younger men only one gold digger in the lot, but he was the sexiest LOL.
He was German and lives in Munich. I immediately booked a ticket to meet him and we have been together ever since. I must admit, I moved to Germany to be with him, but since I have no family left and am economically independent, I was able to make the transition. I have even learned to speak German, one of the many pluses of being open to something new.
But the real point of this posting is, since getting together with Thomas I have become aware of just how many intergenerational couples there are out there.
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Maybe there are more in Europe and the UK than in the states, but we are constantly running into them in restaurants, or when we travel, or at the theater. I can recommend the Silverdaddies site as a good tool; as I say, most of the young men I met were worthwhile but none of them quite did it for me or I for them until I met the right one. So I just want to add these comments to encourage other older men not to assume nobody wants them.
I was in a 40 year relationship with my partner who passed away a year ago, I am slowly adjusting, but doubt I will ever not miss him. This is several month ago, we meet several times a week, see a show, but always end up making love, both of us cannot understand the feelings, call it sex, lust we have for each other, we can relate to each other on other levels as well as sex.
I felt rather guilty about this and talked to several friends, who suggested that we would simply enjoy each other one day at a time. He has told all his friends about me, last week I told my partners son, they are all so happy for me…;blissfully happy and wish every older gay person the same enjoyment.
We would have celebrated our 3 wedding anniversary the past August 1st. We had been together as a couple for 25 years. Because he's lived more than I have. Which means he's got stories. Ones that aren't just about how sloshed he got last weekend.
I'm already a cocktail of fear and loathing and various neuroses, so don't feel the need to seek that out in my romantic life. It's refreshing to know someone who isn't trying to claw his way out of his own skin. Who takes me out of my head. Gives me hope for my 50s and beyond. He's just the right calibration of confidence and insecurity.
His self-acceptance was fought for, and hard-won. He's been to war and seen things. Makes me feel like I'm tending to a ragged veteran. Young men are fragile and baby-smooth and blank like paper, and none of that is particularly intriguing to me.
Because there's a crinkle in the corners of his eyes when he smiles, a reminder that even happiness has a consequence. Why do young gay men date older men? Probably for the same reason some young women date older straight men; they enjoy their companionship, their maturity have you ever met a conceited, vain, shallow, and conceited young man?
We have a society that embraces people that are different and successful. Did you notice that often, actually almost always, one person of the date is older than the other? Funny how reality works. For the same reasons why young straight women date older men, or young straight men date older women, or young lesbians date older lesbians. Seriously- what did you think could possibly be an answer to this question? Some uniquely homosexual daddy issues? Ask New Question Sign In.
I don't know what else to add. Well now that I'm involuntarily merged into a substantially different question which makes me sound vaguely like a gold-digger, let me answer this one: Why do young women date much older men?
What attracts some young men to date older women? Why do younger men date older women? Can a heterosexual who really wants to be gay become so?