Did your kid say something awesome? Stream posts on reddit. Click that to enter chatroom. When my daughter, Liy, was 15 she started working at a fitness center, mainly doing maintenance and hospitality. She's never had many friends but quickly made heaps of friends with people her age to people in the thirties men and women. She just happened to become very good friends with a pair of siblings, the sister Elaine, is now 19 and the brother, Ian, is nowI'm 18 With A 15 Year Old Girlfriend!!!
How do I become a student in the U. Would year-old males want to date a year-old female? Is it mainly for the sex? Is it wrong for a 24 year old and a 17 year old to date? Is it weird for a 21 year old girl to date an 18 year old guy? Is it illegal to tape someone without their knowledge in the U. Would a year-old take a year-old seriously when dating, or is it just for the sex?
Is it ok for a 24 year old to go on dates with an 18 year old? It could very well be much worse. Unless there's some specific cause for alarm, I can't see anything to worry about here any more than if she were dating a guy who is I got together with my current girlfriend when she was 16 and I was Not AS big a difference, but a significant enough of one to be a concern for myself as well as it took a long time for me to be truly sure her parents approved.
It was rather awkward for me to ask about it, as you'll understand, but it would have saved us all quite a bit of a headache if we had opened this conversation from either side.
The core reason I didn't go around my girlfriend to ask her parents this was mostly out of respect for her autonomy.
She was "old for her age", and in the end it turned out her parents had never expected differently from her. Reading some of the other answers, I think everyone is pushing too much advice onto you and as a parent you already know much of what they are saying.
Become closer to her boyfriend and carefully insert yourself into his life. Have a conversation with your daughter about her excitement and experience instead of voicing your concerns. Make it about sharing what she is going through and what her fears are. Reassure her that love is not something to be afraid of. Tell her to embrace the intensity of her emotions so she can always remember these feelings.
Begin placing responsibility onto your daughter that keeps her involved in her own family's life. For example you can decide that Sundays she must help you to cook so that you can pass on your tricks to her.
Go with her to do STI screenings and teach her that one must always keep getting checked regardless of monogamy and commitment. It's just good habit.
You already sound like a great parent so just continue being that. My first love was 14 years older than me and I can tell you that your concerns are justified.
If he begins to mistreat her or you see any signs of emotional abuse then you can put your foot down in a loving and parental way. Her boyfriend and his family should be well aware of this fact. Things are above-board and within bounds, it seems.
If you trust your daughters judgement and maturity then you can ration your concerns or reserve them for indications of the pace of progress in the relationship. Relative age difference will diminish quickly over time. I don't have much else to add but I would bring you to note that age is not just a chronological number. There is biological age and your mental and emotional age to consider. The specific circumstances in your daughter's instance might not be out of order.
Your daughter is in a high risk, but also high reward situation. You can't and shouldn't prevent the relationship, but you should set some ground rules to minimize the risks, and maximize the rewards. I am reminded of an old American story of a year old girl who chased and won a year old military officer, who later became a General, William Westmoreland. At an early age, she had latched on to a "winner," and her life was made.
I see a possibility of that happening here. It's comforting to know that the young man "seems a very sensible person, and owns his own successful business. If he is also "honourable," and this is the key, he will protect your daughter. If this is the case, "the game is worth the candle.
The main thing is to set some standards. First, that "protection" is used for all physical activities. Second, that she keeps track of where the relationship is at all times. Third, that she comes to you for help and guidance if she ever feels that she's in over her head. Adolescent girls are more mature than guys by several years , in the late teens and early 20s.
So the eight year difference in ages may be more like four or five in maturity. It could be that two people who are both unusually mature for their ages "found" each other at a young age.
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If that's the case, they will be more compatible over the long term than either with other, more "random," people closer to their own age. It's also possible that one or both of them senses this. As parents, I wouldn't stand in their way, but I would "stand by" for possible trouble. Thank you for your interest in this question.
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Tom Au 1 7. Please use comments for clarification, not tangential observations or answers -- use Parenting Chat if you want to discuss! Sorry, I don't understand your point, "I can only think he's with her for one reason! If you're not a native English speaker, that phrase "for one reason! Fattie, I am not a native speaker, but isn't that contradictory to OP: It contradicts the premise.
Based on the logic, it shows that "Reductio ad absurdum. You have knowledge of the guys work and living situation. They presumably live close You have another set of parents you can communicate with.
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You KNOW about the situation. It's not a secret. These are good things. You sound like a great parent and I wish the very best to you and your daughter. My year is the first year to be required to stay in full time education until the academic year in which we turn The child in question is either my year or the year below. I'm not saying this is a bad answer, but it is quite anecdotal. Fattie Age difference matters less once your older, but as a teenager the gap is much more pronounced and thus concerning.
Fattie respectfully, that sounds like a complete assumption on your part. Why not do both? Peter Peter 2, 6 Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation is not constructive and has been moved to chat. Several answers already, but I want to address a couple of your concerns. That was 20 years ago, so I can tell you how it turned out. We are happier than ever. We have 7 amazing kids, ages 18 to 2. Our oldest is already succeding at university.
Martin Argerami Martin Argerami 5 You married a year-old at 28? You ol' dog, you! I married a year-old, when I was And, 20 years ago, legal age in Argentina for marriage, not to go to the war was 21, so her parents had to sign an authorization: My husband and I got married early and travelled after, together. I'm glad this all worked out for you, but it's very anecdotal and I don't feel it offers OP any real advice. Giving birth at 17 means that the person in question would never get to experience fully independent life.
I'd be extremely wary of such advice. The general rule of thumb for age appropriateness is half plus 7. The obligatory XKCD cartoon: Pete Pete 2 2. How did you do the math?
Not that I disagree with your answer but using the rule of thumb here may not be the best argument. This is terrible advice. Just adding that this is a well-known "metric" anti creep factor in Scandinavia as well. How is that relevant for the parent asking advice about their teenage daughter In 3 years they will be a perfectly acceptable couple. Just don't let them do things until then: This is more of a comment than an answer, no? I wrote my opinion about this topic as the "grown up guy" to help the questioner decide what to do.
You have not even mentioned that important fact. All these subjects can be discussed honestly and with respect. Unfortunately, with a year-old, it's impossible to say if it's really love. What does "Is it love? Omegacron - to be fair, that is a generalization. I was around that age when my husband and I started dating and he is 4 years older than me.
We have been together for 6 years and happily married for almost 4 years now. That said, we were also both in the same stage of life and met in university which does not seem to be the case in the OP. I would like to know because I strongly suspect it's the culprit of all the divorces.
With a little less "true love" and "Love" with a capital "L" people might end up actually getting to know each other as people, liking each other and marrying because they understand they are a good fit and can work together long term even when everything isn't all rosy. What do marriage and education have to do with each other here? Peter Mortensen 1 6. Chuck Muffinn Chuck Muffinn 91 1.
I have recently started seeing an older man. I'm 34 and he has just turned 50 — a gaping chasm of 16 years. In the past I have generally dated men my age or younger, so this sudden leap into the world of "the older man" was a life change for me, and what a splendid one it has proved to be. Our cultural references may be a bit different, but that's the only thing highlighting our age gap.
We laugh at the same things and have similar hobbies, and yes, I find him very attractive indeed. He might not be able to do the splits as well as he used to allegedly or stay up very late week nights, but who gives a damn? I remember my dear old grandma saying on the morning of her 85th birthday that she still felt 21 inside, and I think this is something people forget when denouncing couples with an age gap.
We're all youngsters inside. Yes, that would be lovely thanks. I have one, and he's still able to play "it" with his grandsons at the age of I am 49, and my partner is We have been together for the last six years and have weathered the twilight years of my fertility together.
While childrearing was discussed and rejected, it remains to be seen whether this is something he ultimately decides he cannot live without. I do think there is a big difference in how age-gap relationships are viewed depending on who is older, largely because of reproductive issues: If the woman is the older, it is either trivialised as a "cougar" fling, or viewed as a tragedy for the hapless younger man.
In our case, we each grappled extensively with the age difference in our own way in the beginning, but realised after a couple of years that what we really wanted was to be together.
The key to age gap relationships is not to try to deny the difference, but not to get too hung up about it either. We joke about it a lot, give each other space for our own age-cohort-related activities, and generally enjoy and respect each other as people , which is about as much as any of us have a right to ask from a relationship.
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